Chanting Not Required: How Spiritual Preparation Transforms Us and Our Kids
Sometimes, Montessori can feel a little like a cult—maybe there is a perception rooted in stereotypical images of chanting, white robes, ritualistic behavior or even kool-aid. While we’re not exactly engaging in those practices, there’s definitely a “granola” vibe to the approach. But here’s the thing—beneath all of that, there are some incredibly transformative ideas, ones that can truly change the way we see ourselves and the children we care for. So, let’s take a little journey together today—no chanting required (unless you want to, no judgment here).
In Montessori circles, the idea of spiritual preparation often comes up when we talk about teachers. How can we, as educators, show up in the best way for our students? But here’s a twist: What if we expanded this? What if we asked, how can we, as adults, show up for the children in our lives? It’s not just about what we do for them in practical ways, but how we prepare ourselves, spiritually, to be the people they need us to be. This is where spiritual preparation really comes into play.
We all know the practical ways we prepare for children—diapers, meals, doctor’s visits, and of course, finding the best schools. These are all necessary, and they matter. But spiritual preparation? Well, that’s often the unsung hero. It’s something that grows with the child, and with us, as we evolve alongside them.
Montessori talks a lot about the transformation of the adult. But it’s not something we can control. It’s more of a natural unfolding—a result of our experiences and our openness to personal growth. So, how do we spiritually prepare ourselves for this journey? There are three key areas I think we can focus on.
1. Observation and Self-Awareness
The first step in spiritual preparation is learning to observe. And I’m not just talking about the kids here. We have to observe ourselves, too. When we reflect on our own childhoods, our current behaviors, and our tendencies, we start to become more self-aware. This awareness is crucial—it helps us understand our children on a much deeper level.
As we let go of rigid expectations, we begin to see the children for who they really are, not who we expect them to be. This shift in perspective makes it easier to accept them for all their quirks and complexities, and it helps us move beyond judgment. When we can approach them with an open heart and mind, we create space for a connection that’s authentic and grounded.
2. Releasing Negative Emotions
Next up, Montessori encourages us to let go of the heavy stuff—anger, pride, frustration. These emotions can cloud our judgment and block our ability to truly see our children’s needs. If we hold onto negativity, it builds emotional walls between us, and that leads to fear and disconnection.
But here’s the good news: we can work to release those emotions. We can create space within ourselves for calm, for patience, and for understanding. When we do this, we not only benefit, but the children benefit, too. They feel safer, more understood, and that nurtures their emotional and spiritual growth. It’s a win-win.
3. Embracing Humility and Presence
Finally, spiritual preparation calls for humility. It’s about recognizing our limitations and acknowledging that we don’t have all the answers. This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present.
When we humble ourselves and let go of our egos, we show up more fully for our children. We create an environment where trust and respect flourish. And when children feel like they’re in a space where they are truly seen, heard, and valued, they are free to thrive.
So, as we head into the weekend, let’s pause and offer ourselves some grace. Let’s practice self-love and make a conscious effort to be present for our children in the most wholehearted way we can. Spiritual preparation isn’t a one-time thing—it’s an ongoing journey of growth. But every step we take toward preparing ourselves spiritually is one we take toward showing up for our children with a full heart.